If You’re Not Horny, You’re Not Healthy—Let’s Talk About That
Alright, let’s just lay it out there—someone, somewhere, once said, "If you're not horny, you're not healthy." And at first, I laughed. Like, okay, sure, tell that to my to-do list & my brain that sometimes forgets why I walked into a room.
But then? I really thought about it.
Because desire—feeling wanted, feeling sexy, feeling alive—it’s not just about sex. It’s about connection. To yourself, to your body, to pleasure in all its forms. And when we lose touch with that? When we stop feeling that fire? It’s usually because we’ve put ourselves on the back burner for too long.
So, let’s talk about what that actually means.
The Burnout Effect
There’s this unspoken expectation that we should just be everything for everyone. The caretaker, the boss, the nurturer, the problem solver, the one who makes shit happen—and then, at the end of the day, we’re supposed to slip into bed feeling like a whole goddess, ready to be worshipped?
Pleaseee. Maybe some nights. 😏
But here’s the thing: desire isn’t just a reaction to the people around us—it’s something we cultivate within ourselves. And when we’re constantly depleted, disconnected, and running on fumes, of course we’re not going to feel that spark. Of course we’re going to feel meh about the idea of slipping into something sexy when we can barely keep our eyes open.
Feeling Good = Looking Good
(Not the Other Way Around)
We’re taught that confidence comes after we fix something. Lose the weight, buy the lingerie, get your life together, THEN you’ll feel sexy. But that’s backwards. Feeling good about yourself starts with the way you see yourself, not the way you fix yourself.
And sometimes?
That takes a little help. A shift. A moment where you say, Hey, I’m still here. I’m still me. And I deserve to feel good in my skin.
Which, if you know me, is where I gently remind you that a boudoir session is so much more than sexy photos. It’s about giving yourself permission to feel again. To see yourself in a new light. To reconnect with the part of you that maybe got buried under responsibilities, schedules, and the occasional existential crisis.
Reignite the Fire
(For You, First.)
If your libido feels like it’s taken a permanent vacation, maybe the question isn’t “What’s wrong with me?” but rather “Where have I been neglecting myself?”
- When was the last time you did something just for the pleasure of it?
- When was the last time you let yourself be seen—really seen?
- When was the last time you felt so damn good in your body that the fire came naturally?
Maybe that means buying the lingerie just because.
Maybe it means booking the shoot and reminding yourself what it feels like to be adored.
Maybe it means slowing the hell down and remembering that feeling sexy isn’t about them—it’s about you.
Because, babe,
if you’re not feeling something, if you’re running on empty, if you can’t remember the last time you looked in the mirror and thought, Damn, that’s me—then it’s time to change that.
Desire isn’t just about sex. It’s about life. Feeling alive. And you deserve that.
So, consider this your sign. It’s time to wake up that fire again. 🔥💋
And if you need a little help remembering what it feels like to be that bitch—you know where to find me.
With love (and maybe a little nudge),
-Mina 💋